I was chatting with a dear friend the other day about our recent move out-of-state. It was an easy move and a hard move all in one. I guess every move is that way. You’re off on a new adventure but leaving a part of you behind. And for me, it was a big part.
I have always been a Texan, a Houstonian in fact. Born and raised there, went to college and came back as soon as I could. My soon-to-be-husband followed me and we started our life together as husband and wife in Houston. Our children were born there and we had the majority of our immediate family within 15 minutes. Our children were enrolled in a great school program, we had a strong, fun, loving group of neighbors and most of my very best friends live there. Our most beloved memories are there. Living in the fourth largest city in the United States means you have everything and I mean EV-ER-Y-THING at your fingertips. Moving away from all of that was hard…real hard, y’all.
So my friend asked me how do I cope with that moving forward? Well, that was just it…you move forward. ‘Focus on the future’ is what I told him. The move was easy because I knew it was the right thing for our family and daydreaming about the way things would have been day-in and day-out does NO ONE any good. Looking toward the future and focusing on what matters most brings excitement and happiness into my heart. What’s that old saying, “If momma ain’t happy, no one is happy”? Truth. Poor grammar, but truth.
Some days you make big decisions about your five-year future and other days its I’m not sure if I should eat that second piece of cake, because I might totally regret that in an hour. And of course, you still eat the cake, get a big stomach ache and want to go back in time to kick yourself in the you-know-what. Ugh, don’t get me started. The point is ‘Focus on the Future’ isn’t meant to be a deep philosophical mantra left for those huge, life-changing decisions. It’s just a gentle reminder that life is moving along whether we do or not.
Now, I’m not saying we forget the past or disregard it as useless. Quite the opposite…Beautiful, meaningful memories live in our past along with some of those ugly cry face ones (yes, we all have ugly cry face) and all of them have made us who we are. We can rely on those memories and their knowledge to make better decisions in our present and future. We just need to make sure that we aren’t looking back for too long or we could miss something amazing walk by.